First of all, you are worth anything and everything. You are a wonderful person and should never feel you aren't worth anything.

These are the problems of mixing religions in a relationship. Of course you want him to convert...you want him to believe what you do. That's not a bad thing.

I don't know what it means for your relationship, but you shouldn't feel bad because it is an issue. It is perhaps the most important issue that can come up.

Good luck.
Sean

Go slow. Don't get engaged, don't make permanent commitments while under the ecstatic but not entirely sane feeling of falling in love. Time will either calm your fears or crystallize them into certainty about what you need to do. Given a year together, you'll have time to figure out what you want, and he'll have time to figure out what he wants, and you'll both have plenty of time to communicate and talk about it and sort out how you feel for the long term.

Not saying it won't hurt. I guess I'm saying that time will make your feelings about Ron and his feelings about you more certain. If you don't know whether you want to stay or leave; wait. You'll figure it out, and once you do know, you can make your decision with less fear of regret.

I hate to sound like a bitch, but didn't you know this was going to happen?

Anyway, I'm sure there's some kind of solution to this. But I don't see why you really NEED to figure it out right now...

Barring external pressure, I don't think you will, as this will be a point of discussion for a while.

Scared because they turn out to be Jewish adults? Or scared because of the implication that I'm not Jewish so how could I have an opinion one way or the other about raising Jewish kids? Or scared that I'm Christian, so I should be concerned about why my kids aren't being raised as I was?

You have as much control over the situation as anyone in this situation does. You can't make me convert. You can't make me stop loving you, either. Come to think of it, you can't really make me do anything that I don't really want to do.

I don't think you want me to convert.

At least not consciously, not yet.

I can't say what the future brings. (I'm sworn to secrecy)

There's a lot of time before children enter the picture. I could be wrong, but I'd like to think that I'm capable of learning, at the very least, the basics of the religion in that time. Whether I'm explaining it to them as a fellow Jew or as an educated dad, does it make that much of a difference? (Not to say that I'm on any kind of equal footing with Jewish fathers who have grown up and been steeped in the Jewish faith and traditions.)

Would that affect the children?

You're 21. You're not supposed to know exactly what you want. At least, that's my theory. If you knew exactly what you wanted, you'd have your sights set on getting it, or you'd already have it.

If you average it out, it's been longer than two months, though, right?

Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.

Worth the tension, stress, and anxiety? Definitely not. Worth the happiness, new experiences and ideas, mutual dorkiness that we can share? Definitely worth it.

You were dating on the first night you met?