I was directed to your article by my older sister (Vivi Abrams, I
believe you know her). I believe myself to be just "pro-choice"
enough to not be "pro-life" -- but because I consider myself to be for
choice, I make myself visible at abortion advocacy type events, such
as a candlelight vigil held in front of the Governor's mansion on
Sunday night. There, about thirty of us discussed abortion ad
nauseam, specifically having the right to make a choice for our own
bodies. It was mostly political. "Stop Alito" and the like. We didn't
discuss when life begins, we didn't talk about individual reproductive
decisions, and we didn't talk about doctors, and their part in all of
this, except to talk about "way back when" before doctors could
perform such surgeries and there were coat-hanger instances.
In was interesting and even somewhat enlightening reading about the
doctor's place in all of this. It reminded me of the Sex and the City
episode where Miranda decides to have an abortion, is told her doctor
doesn't perform them, but, "No judgement!" I think if I ever were to
be a doctor (not going to happen, I hate blood), I wouldn't perform
them. Still with no judgement, and I'd recommend places where it could
be done. Not because I think it shouldn't be done-- there are certain
instances where I think abortions are for the better-- but because I'd
hate to have that responsibility of changing someone's life so much
(and I speak of the mother's life, not the childs) when it could
possibly be the wrong decision. Having that moral conflict on my
shoulders seems like quite a load to bear. If I were to perform them,
there would need to be some sort of informative class. Maybe not for
the woman whose condom broke or the one who missed a day of her pills,
but for the woman who has been in several times and seems to be using
abortion as back-track birth control.
One of the things you mentioned in your article, a quote actually,
reminded me of a discussion I had several weeks ago.
"If you're an abortion provider, and someone comes back for a seventh
one, is that different than someone who comes and weeps on your
doorstep, who says, 'This is the absolute worst thing that has
happened, and I'll never do it again'?"
The discussion was about welfare. Specifically about having too many
children to care for and relying on the government to pay for your
As a reporter, you try to remain objective, but as my sister's friend
who has researched the issue, what are society's (and your) thoughts
on sterilization? At the beginning of this discussion I was
completely against it. But what happens when that woman is in for her
seventh abortion? Is she directed to a class about birth control?
given free birth control (not like condoms aren't handed out like
candy)? At what point does one have to think that perhaps
sterilization is an issue that needs to be discussed? After how many
abortions? After how many children with different last names that
cannot be provided for by the parent(s)?
If you have time to reply to this, I'd really appreciate your thoughts
on the subject. At any rate, thanks for reading.